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Why Is My Partner So Angry?

Anger isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, we have been wired to get angry since caveman days—our heart rates and hormones increase giving us energy to take action. Basically, it’s a way to protect ourselves. So it’s not that anger is bad, it’s just that we no longer have to defend ourselves from saber tooth tigers. And finding the…

Healing After Infidelity

It seems like the ultimate betrayal, and it may well be. When you discover your spouse has had an affair, it’s devastating. You feel shock and disbelief. Anger. Grief. This is the kind of deep hurt that can take several years to recover from, let alone forgive. Some people don’t ever manage it. But many do move on and learn…

When Your Spouse Cheats

For newlyweds, infidelity is a deal breaker. They would never stay with a spouse who cheated. But then time goes by, one partner strays and the decision isn’t so clear. You’ve made an investment in your marriage. Should you throw away all your history because of this one mistake? In fact, most people do decide to stay in their marriages…

Break the Cycle of Stressful Relationships

Chances are good there’s someone in your life who gets under your skin. And not in a good way. Maybe you have a family member who manipulates and takes advantage of you. Or maybe your boss only cares about short-term, bottom-line results when your job requires a long-term effort. Or perhaps you have a passive-aggressive friend who goes behind your…

Fights About Money Are About So Much More

Arguments about money are seldom just about money. They’re about values, insecurities, hopes, and dreams. They’re about what we learned about spending and saving in our original nuclear family. We inherit our attitudes about money from our parents long before we ever connect with our partner. Sometimes we’re not fully conscious of our beliefs. It’s worth exploring our underlying attitudes…

Separate or Joint Bank Accounts? Who’s Happiest?

Money may not be the root of all evil, but it certainly is the root of many arguments. On top of that, if you argue with your spouse about money, chances are your relationship will suffer. Of course, if you are constantly under financial constraints, that’s tough on any relationship. So making enough money to live comfortably is important to…

Happy Father’s Day?

For some people, the word “happy” and “father” should never be in the same sentence. Except, perhaps, to say they are happy they escaped from their father. So when many people are firing up the grill to celebrate with dad, you may be relieved that you aren’t. If you were abused as a child, emotionally or physically, chances are your…

Translating Narcissist-Speak

If you love or live with a narcissist, you probably don’t feel very good about yourself. That’s because a narcissist puts you down in the mistaken belief that it elevates him by comparison. He makes you feel bad so he can feel good. And he probably doesn’t have a guilty conscience about it either. That’s because the narcissist in your…

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