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Your Journey to Happiness

Happiness is a worthwhile thing to pursue. So say the Dalai Lama—the purpose of life is to strive for happiness—and the U.S. Constitution—every citizen has the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. But what constitutes happiness? Let’s just say it’s easier to capture a moment of fleeting happiness, like the rush of pleasure you get from an…

Can You Predict Divorce?

Can You Predict Divorce? No one thinks they’ll get divorced when they’re engaged to be married. They’re excited. They’re in love. They’re in lust. But 40 to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce and the divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher. So there are a lot of people who are surprised to find themselves part of…

Relationship Resolutions

With the New Year upon us, it’s a good time for reflection. Many people like to make resolutions about their relationships, an admirable thing to do. But this involves a joint effort – there is no point in making relationship resolutions on your own when they involve both of you. It has to be a team effort, like your relationship itself. You and your partner…

Codependency: Five Ways to Beat It

Codependency can have its roots in generations of dysfunctional relationships, passed on from parents to children. A narcissist, alcoholic mother who controls her daughter can raise a child with low self-esteem whose greatest desire is to please others. The daughter does not learn to develop herself, but rather, to try and get her mother’s approval, even if it results in behavior detrimental to the daughter.…

It’s Time for the Holidays-and Boundaries

I have a friend whose nickname for her former husband is Toxic Tom. He was just one of those people who walked into a room, took over, bullied everyone within a fifty-foot radius, and sucked the life right out of her. He made demands on her time and energy that she felt obligated to fulfill. While a certain amount of…

Contempt: A Sign Your Marriage Is in Trouble

There are as many reasons for troubled marriages as there are people in them. Surely infidelity is a big one. One partner\’s selfishness is another. Disrespect for your partner\’s opinions and feelings will certainly damage a relationship, as will a lack of emotional intimacy, communication and affection. A need to get your own way through control, manipulation or abuse is…

Marriage’s Underwater Mines—Porn Addiction

A follow-up on my recent article on sex addiction Pornography is not erotic literature, which can have social and artistic value. Serious moral issues pervade the porn industry, such as the exploitation of vulnerable women and the enticement of young people—mostly men, but an increasing number of women—into an unhealthy sex life that can interfere with normal sexual development—and a…

Five Keys to a Happy Marriage

These tips are designed to make life and marriage a little easier, but by no means will they solve all of your issues in one swing. If you need to talk to someone, please consult an Orange County professional today. Many people that get married first marry for passion and the “in-love” feeling they get, and eventually many of those…

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