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How Come We Never Have Sex?

There\’s a great scene in a Woody Allen movie where a couple is seeing a counselor. Simultaneously the male complains that the couple never has sex while the female complains they have constant sex. The reason the scene is funny is because it contains a bit of truth to it. Few couples are perfectly in sync when it comes to…

How Loving Couples Behave

Norman and Norma Burmah, at 102 and 99, have the longest marriage—82 years—on record in the United States. Imagine if they were unhappily married. What a long and dismal sentence that would be. While I don\’t know how happily married they are, I do know what they and others do when they are in a happy relationship. Certain behavioral patterns…

How Much Do You Owe Your Abusive Parents?

Abraham Lincoln did not attend his father\’s funeral. When Abe was nine years old, his father, Thomas, left him and his sister for six months in their backwoods cabin in the charge of their 20-year-old cousin, Dennis Hanks. During that time, they often went hungry and barely scraped by. Later, when Abe became interested in learning, Thomas ridiculed his studies.…

Talking Back to Your Critical Inner Voice

Have you ever told yourself your body\’s too fat, your hair\’s too thin, that you\’re a terrible mother, that you\’re not disciplined enough, smart enough, kind enough? Do you have an inner voice that\’s unjustifiably critical? Critical inner voices can be detrimental to you in a number of ways that could limit you personally or professionally. Depending on the nature…

How Can Counseling Help Gays and Lesbians?

Addressing the needs of the gay and lesbian communities starts with a healthy perspective In certain sectors of our society, being gay or lesbian is seen as unnatural, a disorder, or an aberration—to be diagnosed, accepted as wrong, and cured. Unfortunately, even a small minority of mental health professionals become involved from this perspective. My practice is not one of…

How to Help Out an Unemployed Friend

Losing a job is the third most stressful life event according to Answers.com. Numbers 5 and 8 are “work” and “commuting”. For this survey we see that losing your job is not entirely the worst thing in the world, but it does seem so at the time. In today\’s economic climate everybody knows someone who has lost their job. Those…

Love, Sex, and Social Networks: How Technology is Affecting our Relationships

by Nancy Travers,LCSW Back in what the newest generations might jokingly call “the dark ages,” before internet was available in the majority of homes, you could access free wi-fi at McDonald’s, and everyone was tweeting about the latest advances in smart phone technology, our behavior was different. Relationships formed differently. It took longer to get to know someone. There was…

Getting Back Together ? Good or Bad?

by Nancy Travers,LCSW Sometimes getting back together with an ex-girlfriend or -boyfriend is the right thing to do and can be very advantageous; more often, it is not. Resuming a relationship that has failed once can be a very delicate pas de deux. Before you decide on reconciling with your ex, think long and hard?especially about the following questions: How…

Gray Divorce: The End of the Decades Long Marriage

by Nancy Travers,LCSW Divorce is a common occurrence in American society. As many of us watch our friends get married, or even as we prepare to marry ourselves, we hear that nearly half of American marriages end in divorce. The statistics are slightly better than the coin-toss that popular statistics would have us believe. Time Magazine suggests that 57 percent…

Negative Body Image Affects Your Intimate Relationships

by Nancy Travers,LCSW The way we see and value you ourselves has a huge impact on our actions, our quality of life, our happiness, and even our relationships with others. Body images is a simple term that describes how an individual views their body and appearance?whether that is “average,” “attractive,” or “bad.” Negative body image plagues many Americans, both male…

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