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You Know You’re Codependent When . . .
You’re in a relationship with someone you love, and, as in any relationship, there are times when you give more than you receive. That’s the up-and-down of loving someone. It’s normal. But when you are constantly walking on eggshells, trying to please, that’s a...
Fixing Someone Else Is a Lonely Job
It’s a nice thing to please others, right? You want to be helpful. You want others in your orbit to feel good. And, of course, when you help others, you feel good yourself. It’s all good. Except in excess. When you have a lopsided relationship with someone...
Sibling Abuse: More Prevalent Than You Think
If you’ve been abused by a sibling, you were involved in the most common but least reported abuse. Sibling abuse happens more often than spouse or child abuse combined, and the effects can continue to manifest themselves into adulthood. Maybe your older brother...
What Friends Don’t Understand About Your Relationship with an Abuser
It’s bad enough that you suffer in an abusive relationship. What you don’t need on top of that is guilt for not leaving, and the judgement of family and friends. They ask, “Why do you stay in this terrible relationship?” It’s hard to answer that question. ...
Unrealistic Expectations Can Torpedo Your Marriage
Let’s face it. At the beginning of a romance you are riding high. Your partner is the center of your universe and you’re the center of his. He is the source of your happiness; he is everything you need for companionship—he is everything you need, period. Your...
Coping with Manipulators
If you have a relationship with someone who is a manipulator, it is not easy to change your situation. Because that manipulator wants power over you—wants to control you and use you for his benefit—he is unlikely to give it up. And how does he achieve that power? He...
How to Repair Your Relationship When You’ve Crossed the Line
We all do it sometime—say that one terrible thing that hangs in the air. The moment it’s out of your lips you wish you hadn’t said it. Your heart pounds a little in anticipation of your partner’s response. Will he think you’ve gone too far? Will your relationship ever...
Have You Gone Too Far with Your Partner?
Sometimes you say things to your partner that you don’t really mean. It happens to all of us, especially in moments of stress or anger. When you’re overwhelmed you lash out at the nearest person without thinking of the consequences. Or, you may do it because you’re...
How to Fight Fair
First of all, don’t fight if it means you fight dirty. Instead, argue or disagree. But don’t fight if you have to pull out all the stops to defeat your partner. Remember, you’re with this person because you love him. Because you believe in him. You may not always see...
Your Relationship May Last If You’re Ever So Humble
You’re in love, right? So you commit to a lasting relationship. Maybe you get married. And live happily ever after. Love is all you need. But recent studies show that a dose of humility is a helpful factor in keeping your love alive and healthy for a long time....
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