by Nancy Travers | Oct 2, 2022 | Uncategorized
A significant amount of online searches are porn related. One study shows it’s 13 percent of all searches, which is a lot when you think of all the conversing, shopping, information gathering, and restaurant reservations people make online. If your partner is one who... by Nancy Travers | Sep 19, 2022 | Uncategorized
“Walk a mile in his moccasins.” When you can stand in someone else’s shoes, you can see life from his perspective; you can understand where he’s coming from; you can begin to know how he feels. When you can do that, you are empathetic—better able to connect with that... by Nancy Travers | Sep 6, 2022 | Uncategorized
Last time we talked about how Jenny was eager to please in her relationship. She was so eager, that she pleased him to the point of putting her own needs on the back burner. She did whatever he wanted, including helping him restore his boat. She discovered he was... by Nancy Travers | Aug 22, 2022 | Uncategorized
It’s not a bad thing to please people. To be thoughtful about other people’s feelings and needs. To be generous and kind. These are all traits we’re taught to develop from the time we’re in kindergarten. And rightfully so. But when you’re in a relationship and your... by Nancy Travers | Aug 8, 2022 | Uncategorized
A traumatic experience changes you. It changes the way you think, how you feel. It even changes the way your nervous system operates. You are physically and mentally changed, and those changes affect your relationship. Perhaps, as a result of trauma, you become... by Nancy Travers | Jul 25, 2022 | Uncategorized
Human beings are so needful of one another that even those who have terrible experiences with previous relationships still reach out and try to bond with someone. People who have never known a safe, loving relationship. People who have been betrayed by a loved one... by Nancy Travers | Jul 11, 2022 | Uncategorized
Being critical of your partner is a sure way to kill your relationship. Yet, what are you supposed to do? Smother your concerns? Not speak fully and truthfully to your partner lest your criticism damage your relationship? Of course, it’s important to... by Nancy Travers | Jun 26, 2022 | Uncategorized
Last time we talked about the ego defenses people use to mitigate the anxiety we have when we are not behaving as we think we ought to. We repress things, which is an active but unconscious act of forgetting things we find less than stellar about ourselves. We employ... by Nancy Travers | Jun 13, 2022 | Uncategorized
Defense mechanisms come in handy when you’re trying to justify that you’re still a good person even though you just committed murder. Or, say, when you scolded your child out of anger when he didn’t deserve it. Or whenever you do or say something—reality—that... by Nancy Travers | May 29, 2022 | Uncategorized
The Dali Lama said the purpose of our lives is to be happy. But is it easier said than done? Surely there are circumstances into which you are born that would make you happy, like being healthy, for example. Yet, many people who have health problems manage to be happy... 
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