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Are you anxious about your partner dropping you? Do you think you’re not worthy of your partner? Somehow not good enough? Are you afraid your partner doesn’t want you?   You may have an anxious attachment style, meaning you’re not secure in your relationships....

Christine and David have been together for three years, and to outsiders, their relationship appears to be lovely. David would do anything for Christine. If she has a problem, he does his best to solve it. If her feelings get hurt, he tries to soothe her. Sometimes he...

When you apologize, you acknowledge that you have broken an unwritten rule, wronged someone in some way, or breached their trust. Society only works when people’s conduct can, for the most part, be expected to fit into certain parameters. When you go outside those...

Master manipulators are so good you don’t even know what they’re doing. You may even have lived a charmed life where no one has tried to manipulate you before you met the master—so you have no way of knowing what’s happening to you. Or, you may have been raised in a...

You may not realize it when you speak contemptuously, for all sorts of reasons, but if you’re contemptuous of your partner, you’re being emotionally abusive. You may have been brought up in a household where scorn for a partner was par for the course and a familiar...

Your brain is your most important sex organ. When you think about what you desire and try to understand what your partner desires, you can increase satisfaction with your relationship both in and out of bed. But you have to talk about it, and that is the difficult...

Alicia and Trevor’s marriage was humming along before the pandemic. They were both constantly busy. He went to the office every day, played team sports on the weekend—hockey in the winter, softball in the summer. She was more of an introvert, working from home,...

Why do we stay true to a narcissist? Why do we continue our fealty to someone whose behavior is reprehensible? Why do we persist being loyal to someone who’s abusive? If you’re berating yourself for loving someone who is not good to you, remember this: It’s not your...