by Nancy Travers | May 14, 2023 | Uncategorized
Sometimes we have to lie to ourselves just to get through the day. It’s okay. Everybody does it at one time or another. It’s hard to be objective about ourselves—some of us give ourselves a pass a little too readily, and some of us berate ourselves unnecessarily. But... by Nancy Travers | May 1, 2023 | Uncategorized
You love your partner, but he’s not easy to love. If he has Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), you may have had to alter your life in response to his needs. You may have had to turn down social engagements—sometimes awkwardly at the last minute—to accommodate your... by Nancy Travers | Apr 23, 2023 | Uncategorized
The real question to ask if your partner is depressed is: How does it not affect you? Because there are so many ways you’re impacted. Your partner’s depression takes its toll on your emotions, your sexual intimacy, your ability to communicate, to name just a few. When... by Nancy Travers | Apr 16, 2023 | Uncategorized
Do our perceptions of ourselves match the perceptions others have of us? Do we tell ourselves the truth about who we really are? Are our narratives hopelessly biased and untethered from reality? It is only natural that we construct narratives about ourselves... by Nancy Travers | Apr 9, 2023 | Uncategorized
Most people are basically honest, but studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Usually, these are little white lies, like: “No, you don’t look like you’ve gained a pound.” These lies are deployed in the hopes of making people feel better, and... by Nancy Travers | Mar 5, 2023 | Uncategorized
Mary and Don, like everyone starting out in a new marriage, expected to live happily ever after. They had two children, a boy and a girl, and successful careers. But Mary had a low sense of self-worth as a result of a childhood with a disapproving mother. When she... by Nancy Travers | Feb 26, 2023 | Uncategorized
If there’s one thing we learned from the pandemic, it’s that extra stress can strain a relationship to the breaking point, even when it seemed okay before. Erin knew her relationship with Dave wasn’t perfect, but she didn’t realize how fragile it really was until they... by Nancy Travers | Feb 13, 2023 | Uncategorized
I’ve heard too many stories of one partner begging the other to accompany her to therapy. Once there, the therapist woos the reluctant one to get him on board. Meanwhile, the willing partner feels the therapist is partial to her spouse and might even be prejudiced... by Nancy Travers | Jan 29, 2023 | Uncategorized
Border collies are beautiful dogs that are happiest when doing the jobs they were born to do: herd in the strays and patrol the boundaries. A good border collie will defend his master’s boundary with unrelenting ferocity and tenacity. Women can take a lesson from... by Nancy Travers | Jan 16, 2023 | Uncategorized
If you’re in a relationship in which you experience a lot of conflict, you may have found yourself “flooding.” That is, you may have felt so overwhelmed that you were flooded with emotion, so much so that you did not feel in control. Perhaps you were unsure of what... 
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