Are You in a High Conflict Relationship?

Nobody begins a relationship thinking they’ll be at each other’s throats to the point of feeling unsafe. In fact, most people are conflict averse, avoiding it at all costs. But over time, relationships evolve and for a few, sooner or later, they devolve into periodic...

When Couples Seek Last-Ditch Therapy

Often, when couples in distress finally make it to a therapist, it’s a hail Mary situation. They’re at the end of their rope, and they’re ready for separation or divorce. Sometimes they just make a perfunctory visit, not expecting the therapist to help them, but...

6 Self Care Ideas for the Holidays

At the risk of stating the obvious, life is hectic during the holidays. Too many tasks. Too little time. Too much to eat. Too much to do for others. And not enough emotional and physical care for yourself. Some people never think of themselves during the holidays and...

Reframing the Goal of Exposure Therapy

Jane and her husband, Charlie, made a major move in their lives. The pandemic showed them they could earn a living from home, and their home could be anywhere they wanted. They decided to move from a condo in Chicago to a single-family home in the mountains of...

Developing a Mother-Daughter Bond

When problems occur in parent-child relationships, the child, quite rightly, is the one therapists are most concerned about. But it takes two to tango, and parents often have backgrounds that are unfavorable to a healthy parent-child bond. When the parent and the...

How to Be Your Best? Know Thyself.

It’s possible to go through your life reacting to circumstances and doing what needs to be done in the moment, which is certainly necessary to a degree. But if you want more intentionality in your life, if you want to make the most of being who you are, then...

Is Your Partner a Porn Addict?

A significant amount of online searches are porn related. One study shows it’s 13 percent of all searches, which is a lot when you think of all the conversing, shopping, information gathering, and restaurant reservations people make online. If your partner is one who...

Being Empathetic Is Good for You

“Walk a mile in his moccasins.”  When you can stand in someone else’s shoes, you can see life from his perspective; you can understand where he’s coming from; you can begin to know how he feels. When you can do that, you are empathetic—better able to connect with that...