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The language of love comes in many dialects. The trick is to learn to speak your partner’s dialect, or at least to understand it. And if possible, to appreciate it. The trouble comes when you expect your beloved to speak your language. For example, Sally is a Gifter....

If you were raised to feel chronically guilty you were told as a child that things you couldn’t possibly help were your fault. You weren’t perfect enough. You made mistakes. You didn’t do what you were supposed to do. Your parents or whoever was in charge—and who were...

Now that Thanksgiving is over, it’s easy to let the concept of gratitude fade in the everyday busyness of life. But the fact is, gratitude is an attitude you can cultivate and develop. When you do, you will find not only psychological benefits, but physical benefits,...

A friend of my friend, Jane, committed the biggest BFF sin there is—betrayal. She was envious of Jane’s successful business and sabotaged Jane’s client. She lied to the client about Jane’s abilities and claimed she could serve the client better. When my businesswoman...

You’ve got problems. Everyone does. You can’t go through life without them. What matters is how you deal with them. Last week we talked about tuning into your emotions so you can recognize problems early and hopefully get a head start at solving them, thus truncating...

Everyone has problems in everyday life, sometimes multiple problems at the same time. The extent to which these problems plague you depends on how you handle them. For example, if your problem is that you’re perpetually late, you can stick your head in the sand and...

Historically, marriage was often arranged by families. It was considered a business alliance or a way to survive. Since love and passion were not necessarily central to these marriages, we assume people strayed to find love. Today, when many marry for love and passion...

Social media is ubiquitous. So many people chronicle their lives in so many places with so many connections that it can complicate your relationship. You can track the activities—good and bad—of people who are close to you. You can stalk your ex online. You can snoop...

No matter how smart and emotionally mature you are, when your marriage has suffered an affair, recovery is tough. There is no silver bullet, no simple remedy. The recovery process is often lengthy and non-linear, with two steps forward and one back. In other words, it...