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How Low Self-Esteem Sabotages Relationships

It’s hard to have a good relationship with someone else when you don’t have one with yourself. If you don’t think you’re good enough, how can you attract anyone else? Who would choose you except someone else who’s a loser too? When you have low-self esteem, you agree with Groucho Marx who said, “I don’t want to belong to any…

Four Ways to Build Self-Esteem

How important is self-esteem? People make choices based on how they feel about themselves. When you feel you have little worth as a person it affects your life. At the least, you may perform below your potential. At the worst, you may make drastic decisions—like marrying the wrong person—because you don’t think you deserve any better. Actions you take because…

Stop Picking the Wrong Partner

Bad boys aren’t good. So why do you keep ending up with them when you know somewhere in your secret heart of hearts, bad boys are bad for you. Yet somehow you keep sending out that signal that you want a relationship with someone who is absolutely wrong. Someone who will come along and salve you ego in the short-term…

Are You a Rescuer Who Picks the Wrong Partner?

Do you pick the wrong partner over and over? Do you look for a fixer-upper—someone you can help? If you’re honest with yourself, do you seek out relationships that require you to rescue or enable your partner? And when you can’t change or fix him, do you move on to the next person you can “help?” It’s a cycle you…

When Your In-Laws Criticize How You Parent

it’s never fun to take criticism, but it’s especially difficult when that criticism is about how you raise your children. It’s so personal. So fraught with intense emotion. But in-laws—and let’s face it, we’re mostly talking mother-in-laws—can’t seem to help themselves. Why does your mother-in-law do it? She suffers from a lack of control. Here is this new bundle whom…

When You Marry Your Spouse’s Family

Your father-in-law ceaselessly complains about the Democrats or Republicans—whichever party you like, he doesn’t. Your mother-in-law can only talk about her aches and pains—her ailments and her friends’ ailments—which drives you to tears of boredom. How will you ever survive? People say that when you marry, you also marry a whole family. Your partner’s family becomes yours and you need…

How to Handle Your Anger

You know the feeling. Your emotions overwhelm you. Your brain is flooded. Your nerves and networks in your brain are rapid firing without your consent. You feel the heat rising. You’re angry. It happens to the best of us. There are tactics you can use to mitigate your anger in the moment—deep breathing, going for a run, doing yoga. But…

Why Is My Partner So Angry?

Anger isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, we have been wired to get angry since caveman days—our heart rates and hormones increase giving us energy to take action. Basically, it’s a way to protect ourselves. So it’s not that anger is bad, it’s just that we no longer have to defend ourselves from saber tooth tigers. And finding the…

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