Relationships

Are You Too Sensitive?

If someone tells you you’re too sensitive, beware. They could be the bull in the china shop who stampedes over your feelings and then expects you not to mind. Or they could be the manipulative toxic person who is trying to control you. Or they could actually be trying to help you achieve an emotional balance that will make you…

Escape from Being Your Family’s Scapegoat

If your parents and siblings use you to maintain their unhealthy behavior patterns, you are the family’s scapegoat, the repository of all your dysfunctional family’s problems. You’ve been the target of bullying and emotional abuse, maybe even physical abuse. And this unfair, cruel targeting has left you with a number of your own problems, like low self-esteem and depression. If…

Are You Your Family’s Scapegoat?

Are You Your Family’s Scapegoat? I have a friend who blames the dog when something goes wrong in her family. Who forgot to put the milk back in the fridge? “Buddy!” Who left the garage door open? “Buddy!” The use of humor is a healthy approach in such situations. But when the family chooses a child or a sibling as…

Can You Predict Divorce?

Can You Predict Divorce? No one thinks they’ll get divorced when they’re engaged to be married. They’re excited. They’re in love. They’re in lust. But 40 to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce and the divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher. So there are a lot of people who are surprised to find themselves part of…

Are You Being Manipulated?

Are you in a relationship where you feel unbalanced, feel like you’re walking on eggshells, feel humiliated, and just plain feel something isn’t right? You could be suffering from a partner who manipulates you to keep you in control. You could be suffering from emotional abuse. And even though he doesn’t hit you, the abuse is very real. Sometimes your…

Are You Joining the Mob on Social Media?

Did your mother ever say, “If everyone else jumped off the cliff, would you jump, too?” She was trying to teach you about mob mentality and its perils. And she was trying to get you to think critically—for yourself. Of course you wouldn’t jump off a cliff if you thought about it, but many of us become lemmings in a…

Narcissist Family Dynamics

If you grew up in a household with a narcissist parent, then you learned to cope in a dysfunctional family. Your narcissist parent believed she was the automatic ruler of the household, and there could be no breaching her in any way. She was in complete control and was not to be questioned. That’s because those with narcissist personality disorder…

Happy Father’s Day?

For some people, the word “happy” and “father” should never be in the same sentence. Except, perhaps, to say they are happy they escaped from their father. So when many people are firing up the grill to celebrate with dad, you may be relieved that you aren’t. If you were abused as a child, emotionally or physically, chances are your…

Honor Thy Mother?

With Mother’s Day just past, many are relieved it’s over until next year. With all those Facebook posts of happy mothers and daughters hugging and smiling, with all those declarations that mothers are role models and best friends, with all those hearts and flowers, some have to wonder. Is it for real? Those are the girls and women whose mothers…

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