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Your Journey to Happiness

Happiness is a worthwhile thing to pursue. So say the Dalai Lama—the purpose of life is to strive for happiness—and the U.S. Constitution—every citizen has the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. But what constitutes happiness? Let’s just say it’s easier to capture a moment of fleeting happiness, like the rush of pleasure you get from an…

Are You Too Sensitive?

If someone tells you you’re too sensitive, beware. They could be the bull in the china shop who stampedes over your feelings and then expects you not to mind. Or they could be the manipulative toxic person who is trying to control you. Or they could actually be trying to help you achieve an emotional balance that will make you…

6 Small Bad Habits to Break

Some behaviors are simply not good for your mental health. Sometimes just a few small adjustments can make a big difference in your life. You don’t always have to make a herculean effort to get yourself feeling significantly better. There may be just a few tune-ups you can make to better your mental health. Here are some behaviors you might…

Escape from Being Your Family’s Scapegoat

If your parents and siblings use you to maintain their unhealthy behavior patterns, you are the family’s scapegoat, the repository of all your dysfunctional family’s problems. You’ve been the target of bullying and emotional abuse, maybe even physical abuse. And this unfair, cruel targeting has left you with a number of your own problems, like low self-esteem and depression. If…

What Do You Expect from Therapy?

Sure you could benefit from sitting down with a professional and talking about your life. Who wouldn’t? But you haven’t had some life altering trauma or a serious mood disorder, for example. So you’re not feeling an urgent need for therapy. It’s just that you know you might gain some clarity if you finally admitted to yourself that therapy is…

Narcissist Family Dynamics

If you grew up in a household with a narcissist parent, then you learned to cope in a dysfunctional family. Your narcissist parent believed she was the automatic ruler of the household, and there could be no breaching her in any way. She was in complete control and was not to be questioned. That’s because those with narcissist personality disorder…

Happy Father’s Day?

For some people, the word “happy” and “father” should never be in the same sentence. Except, perhaps, to say they are happy they escaped from their father. So when many people are firing up the grill to celebrate with dad, you may be relieved that you aren’t. If you were abused as a child, emotionally or physically, chances are your…

Five Reasons We Fail at Love

Five Reasons We Fail at Love Time was, a few generations ago, that people got married and stayed married. They were solid. Committed. They made a vow and they kept it. It seems like they knew how to love or at least stay together. And now days it seems like people break up at the drop of the hat. What’s…

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