Counseling Articles

What Do You Expect from Therapy?

Sure you could benefit from sitting down with a professional and talking about your life. Who wouldn’t? But you haven’t had some life altering trauma or a serious mood disorder, for example. So you’re not feeling an urgent need for therapy. It’s just that you know you might gain some clarity if you finally admitted to yourself that therapy is…

Narcissist Family Dynamics

If you grew up in a household with a narcissist parent, then you learned to cope in a dysfunctional family. Your narcissist parent believed she was the automatic ruler of the household, and there could be no breaching her in any way. She was in complete control and was not to be questioned. That’s because those with narcissist personality disorder…

Happy Father’s Day?

For some people, the word “happy” and “father” should never be in the same sentence. Except, perhaps, to say they are happy they escaped from their father. So when many people are firing up the grill to celebrate with dad, you may be relieved that you aren’t. If you were abused as a child, emotionally or physically, chances are your…

Five Reasons We Fail at Love

Five Reasons We Fail at Love Time was, a few generations ago, that people got married and stayed married. They were solid. Committed. They made a vow and they kept it. It seems like they knew how to love or at least stay together. And now days it seems like people break up at the drop of the hat. What’s…

A Successful Marriage Means Adapting to Change

To have a good, long marriage, you must fall in love many times, always with the same person. There are plenty of people who have long marriages, but they aren’t necessarily good or happy, just long. And there are plenty of people who have good marriages, but then fall out of love, like a shooting star that loses its energy.…

At a Loss for Words When Friends Grieve?

Last week we talked about what NOT to say—things that might make your friend feel less than comforted. For example, bromides like “Things work out for the best,” and “It’s God’s will,” could provoke a hostile response at worst or at best, may simply not be helpful. People grieve in different ways and you need to honor their sorrow. So…

What NOT to Say to Grieving Friends

What can you say when a friend loses a loved one? It’s hard, because nothing you say will bring back the person who died. You want to help but you’re tongue-tied and feel awkward. You don’t want to risk saying the wrong thing so you don’t make contact at all. And that’s too bad, because this is a time your…

7 Things to Ask Yourself Before You Commit

  Most people who get engaged think their marriage will last a lifetime, but up to 40 to 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. So there’s a disconnect. About half of them will not make it. How do you know if you’ll be among the couples with staying power? Can you survive the honeymoon? Believe it or not,…

How Technology Can Help When You’re in Therapy

  Wondering if therapy will work for you? Finding it difficult to imagine how your treatment will work if you and your therapist avail yourself of the latest science has to offer? Technology can enhance your experience. Although research is beginning to show that technology can’t take the place of face-to-face work with a qualified therapist, it can be useful…

Psychotherapists v Psychics

Time was when cultures depended on gifted folks to help the general population through difficult times. These gifted folks offered spiritual or emotional guidance, perhaps using tarot cards, crystals, astrology, prayer or meditation to support their efforts. Historically, these people were the only resources available. Fast forward to today, and we still find a surprising number of people investing their…

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