Communication

The Silent Treatment Speaks Volumes

People who invoke the silent treatment to punish you, control you or otherwise put you off balance and disempower you, are abusive. The silent treatment is typically a technique used to manipulate you, so it’s important to identify it when it happens. And it’s important to know how to respond. Yes, there are times when you, yourself, resort to silence…

Winning Your Breakup

Five Tips for Winning the Breakup Breaking up is hard to do, especially in the digital age. Basically, your relationships are out in the world for all to see. So when you breakup, your breakup will be public, too. And you should consider what you want people to see on Facebook or YouTube or Instagram or whatever media you use.…

Triangulation Manipulation

Triangulation Manipulation Ever been caught in a situation where one friend complains to you about another? And that friend complains to you about the first friend? Often this complaining is perfectly benign and unintentional in its harmful effects. But sometimes triangulation—getting a third person to validate your opinion—is toxic. Think of the game mean girls play. Guys can play it…

Why Are You Staying in a Toxic Relationship?

Sometimes, even when you are suffering in a toxic situation, it’s difficult to extricate yourself. The first thing is to recognize that you are, indeed, in an abusive relationship. Here are some signs: Anger. It’s a pretty good giveaway that the person you’re dealing with is toxic. If he flies off the handle, has violent mood swings, beware. A friend was dating a guy…

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