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We’ve been talking about emotional maturity and the indications that you’ve achieved it. You understand that striving for perfection can be crazy-making. You know that holding a grudge is more work than it’s worth. You exercise self-control. And you appreciate the...

It takes a certain amount of living to the learn lessons that mean you’re finally a grownup. That’s when you have acquired enough emotional intelligence so you function really well as an adult. Last week we talked about four indicators that mean you have acquired...

Emotional intelligence is hard to come by. You probably have to go through some trials and failures as you make the journey toward maturity. It takes a certain amount of experience and insight to develop it. But the smarter you are about learning life’s lessons, the...

If you’ve been on a dating site lately you’ve probably indicated all sorts of preference. You like to stay home and eat pizza and watch Netflix, your ideal vacation is sipping cocktails with little umbrellas in them on a beach in the Caribbean, and classical jazz is...

People who are codependent often find themselves in relationships with narcissists, because they each fill a complementary role to one another. The codependent person needs to be needed, and supplies the narcissist with the devotion and attention the narcissist...

Often people who are codependent are the yin to the narcissist’s yang. In other words, a codependent and a narcissist are two integral parts of a whole. One cannot exist without the other. Strange as it may seem, both codependents and narcissists have commonalities....

It’s an age-old question: What is true love? And how will you know when you’ve found it? Does it strike you like lightening or does it tiptoe up to you and settle in gently? Does everyone find it or only a lucky few? And how do you know it’s real? We’re talking about...

We’re all familiar with the perils of addiction—surrendering to a substance that you can’t resist, until you are entirely under its control. You go back for more repeatedly because the short-term rush is great. But the long-term harm is even greater, and it’s...

Do you find yourself in relationships that are fraught with unhappiness? Do you seem to make the same mistakes over and over? Do feel like you’re unlucky in love, but you don’t know why? Consider Alice, who always seems to end up as the other woman. She’s currently in...

When you’re in a new relationship, you’re probably swept up in the delight of it all. And you should be. It’s great to enjoy it. But sometimes, in the effort to put your best foot forward and give the benefit of the doubt, you miss red flags. You know, those are the...